Four Patterns of Healthy People

How to Grow Past Your Rooted Behaviors, Discover a Deeper Connection with Others, and Reach Your Full Potential in Life and Business

Identify Recurring Patterns to Grow Beyond What Is Holding You Back from Success and Fulfillment!

Your most powerful work is overcoming the mistakes, flaws, and wounds you have internalized throughout your life. Are you ready to harness that?

Recurring themes of conflict, cognition, addiction, time allocation, and situational responses become patterns that affect your decisions, both positively and negatively.

Once you are aware of these recurring patterns, you can use them to place emphasis on the positive impact and minimize the negative.

Understanding these patterns is step one to becoming a healthier version of yourself.

Do you believe that you can change patterns in how you think and relate to others to have a more fulfilling life?

You can.

In 2002, Matt Norman suffered from debilitating panic attacks that sidelined him from business meetings, making it difficult for him to interact with others. Once he learned to recognize the patterns that were causing his anxiety, Matt was able to overcome it. Now, he is a leader in the industry that mentors others on how to do the same.

You have a choice.

You can stay stuck in the same recurring patterns or you can identify and confront those patterns in an effort to grow.

Your brain will remind you of trauma and past experiences to keep you in the same pattern of survival, “Be careful, you got hurt last time!”

It makes you resist change because it might be risky! As a result, you remain in fixed patterns that can limit productivity and be downright debilitating.

This is the brain’s natural reaction, but that does not mean you have to be locked into this limiting behavior. You can create new connections in your brain that encourage new thoughts and actions.

Don’t you think it’s time for you to grow and lead a more fulfilling life?

You’re the reason Matt wrote this book. His passion is to show you how to recognize recurring negative patterns that are holding you back and help you embrace the growth that will carry you to new heights!

If you’re ready to begin identifying the recurring patterns that are holding you back, confront them, and advance to a healthier and more fulfilling life, then you’re in the right place. Pick up your copy today!

What’s inside

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Pattern #1

Healthy Thinking

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Pattern #2

Healthy Relationships

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Pattern #3

Healthy Ego

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Pattern #4

Healthy Operations

Chapter 1

Choosing to Grow

This is your last chance. After this there is no turning back. You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes. Remember, all I’m offering is the truth. Nothing more. – Morpheus, The Matrix

In 2015, my wife and I agreed to bite the bullet and do marriage counseling thirteen years into our marriage. We had found ourselves in patterns of relating with one another and with our extended families in which we felt stuck. While a number of our friends had told us about breakthroughs they’d experienced doing the same, we had certain reservations. Yet we knew we’d benefit from the knowledge, experience, and counsel of a neutral third party to help us grow past our patterns of impasse. In addition, since I work in a “helping” profession as an executive coach and facilitator, receiving “help” from another professional seemed worth exploring.

The process began with a few meetings together with David, the counselor, to lay out our stories and increase our awareness of our patterns of relating, which were causing recurring misunderstanding and frustration.

After an initial few sessions to understand our situation, David pushed down deeper into our patterns of frustration. He offered me a metaphorical “red pill,” like the one Morpheus offered Neo in the movie The Matrix to give him a new level of self-awareness and situational clarity. He wanted me to see the matrix of my life, to better understand the patterns in my thinking and behavior. These patterns had worked well enough for me. My family and early friends accepted these patterns. I didn’t even think about them.

“Matt, would you talk with me alone for the next few meetings about where you can personally grow?”

He made the same offer to Kari, and we both accepted.

And into the rabbit hole we went.

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Upon purchase you’ll get access to additional resources such as downloadable forms and small group discussion questions.

I'm always in awe of Matt Norman's ability to bring out the absolute best version of everyone he reaches. And Four Patterns of Healthy People is no exception. Matt draws you in with his vulnerability and rigor and while forcing you to think differently about who you are and who you can become. As someone who has dedicated the last two decades helping companies find, grow, and engage talent, Matt's book has opened up an entirely new and completely overlooked category of how to develop the next generation of top performers and equip us all to realize our full potential

Andre Lavoie, CEO of ClearCompany

In Four Patterns of Healthy People, Matt leads us on a journey out of our unhealthy patterns into a place of health and flourishing. By candidly sharing his own struggles and breakthroughs, Matt provides practical tools that equip us to identify destructive patterns, address them head on, and make lasting changes that enhance our lives and the lives of those around us. Read this book, apply the lessons, and you will be changed!

Peter Greer • President & CEO • HOPE International 

I have to thank you. I am taking my leadership team through your book and the exercises. I can’t tell you how resounding the feedback has been. It resonates with all. So relevant. Thank you for making a difference. It is working! As a leader and coach…I long for content to reach the depths of people and make a difference. This has hit a chord. Really well done!

–Michael West, VP at Hershey

About the author

matt norman

Matt Norman is President & CEO of Norman & Associates. Through Norman & Associates, he helps people think and work together more effectively. Matt’s mentorship has helped Fortune 100 corporations, non-profits, and entrepreneurs change the way they engage with their employees and clients. 

Your most powerful work is overcoming the mistakes, flaws, and wounds you have internalized throughout your life. Are you ready to harness that?

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